Reflections on My Last Day in the Military: A Journey of Resilience and Friendship
Standing in a formation in Seps Platoon at Camp Pendleton, I received the DD-214. While most were milling about or already on their way, I hopped on my motorcycle and rode out the rear gate. This was my last day as an active member of the military, and although every day was filled with challenges, the idea of not belonging culminated on this day.
My Last Day through the Eyes of a Military Officer
Active Duty Military and After
Before I could sign out on leave, I still lived on post and landed a job working for the same unit, albeit in the motor pool. A triumphant In-N-Out dining experience, followed by the receipt of my DD-214, flag, and civilian certificate, after which I put on my civilian clothes and drove to work. The camaraderie and support from my fellow military members kept me going, and while I was ready to end 26 years of service, the memories and friendships linger on, adding a bittersweet twist to the sense of accomplishment.
Retirement Day with A Sense of Belonging
On the final day of my service, I stood in a formation outside the HQ. Family and close friends witnessed my retirement. The sense of belonging that I had with my comrades was overwhelming. Even though the ceremony was routine and the official retiree process was handled with a simple handshake, it symbolized the end of a long journey. The departure from the unit was not celebrated, and leaving the installation meant lunging myself into the unknown of civilian life.
The Emotionless Departure
The last day was more of a departure checklist than an emotional one. Paperwork, orders, and supply lists dominated the day. The absence of closure left an indelible mark. Despite the lack of camaraderie, the experience of turning in personal effects while driving away marked the end of a familiar routine and the beginning of a new chapter.
The Last Day: A Routine of Emptiness
The emptiness of my last day was palpable. The last day was filled with routine tasks and a checklist of items to be turned in. The detachment from the military routine was intentional, stripping away the emotions of the transition. The completion of the checklist was a nod to the end of the service, but the process left a sense of loss and incompleteness, which lingers as a part of my identity.
A Life Reshaped by Military Service
The military life has come to an end, but the bonds formed, the missions accomplished, and the growth experienced live on. The comradeship, missions, and friendships have profoundly shaped who I am. The comrades, missions, and life experiences have built a foundation for personal and professional growth. The strong relationships and comradery that remain with former colleagues and fellow soldiers remain a cherished part of my life. This sense of belonging and the strong connections built during service will always define my identity.
As I transition into civilian life, the memories and kinship with my fellow soldiers continue to enrich my life, providing a perpetual reminder of the invaluable experiences gained during service. The final day, while marked by routine, serves as a poignant reminder of the significance of the military journey that shapes a person's outlook and identity.
Final Reflection: The military life, with all its challenges, has provided a profound sense of purpose and a lifetime of memories. Even as I am no longer a member, the bonds formed and the experiences gained define who I am in the most enduring way.