The Mysterious Chameleons: Why Some BPD Individuals Are Considered As Such

Often misunderstood and misrepresented, individuals with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) are sometimes referred to as chameleons. This term is not as commonly associated with BPD as it is with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD). In this article, we will delve into this topic, explore the reasons behind the analogy, and provide insights from firsthand experience.

Is BPD Chameleon-like?

It is my personal belief that BPD is more closely related to NPD when it comes to individuals who change their behavior to fit in. Those with NPD are known to adapt their behavior to gain affection, admiration, and attention. However, I am who I am, despite having BPD. Being genuine is essential, and I take pride in my authentic self, flaws and all. I am kind, generous, and compassionate, and I treat others with respect. Many people with BPD share this trait, and there are indeed cases where individuals with BPD change their behavior to fit in with their surroundings. However, this is more of an NPD characteristic rather than a BPD one.

Blending In: PWBPD and Chameleon Behavior

Many individuals with BPD, known as Post-Whisper BPD (PWBPD), are described as chameleons because they go to great lengths to blend in with people they barely know. This behavior can be highly successful in the short term but often becomes a double-edged sword for both the PWBPD and the people they interact with.

For the PWBPD, the never-ending feeling of not having a stable sense of self in adulthood drives them to form new connections with such fervor that they sometimes struggle to understand their own motivations. In many cases, they are not fully aware of why they engage in such behavior. The empty feeling of never having a stable sense of self in adulthood fuels a need to belong, which explains the intense emotional investment in forming relationships.

For the non-PWBPD, the PWBPD can be highly charming, mirroring and attentively listening to every thought, making them feel special and valued. These initial positive experiences can be intoxicating, leading both parties to feel swept away, even though they might not be able to pinpoint why something feels off or artificial.

The Downside of Blending In

While initial relationships might seem perfect, the reality often falls short. Many PWBPD eventually realize that the interests, hobbies, and passions they believed they discovered in a new person were actually a reflection of what that person wanted to hear. This realization can lead to disappointment and the dissolution of relationships, as both parties may eventually feel like they are not truly known or understood by each other.

Conclusion

Being referred to as a chameleon can be misleading and detrimental to individuals with BPD. It is crucial to understand that while some individuals with BPD may exhibit chameleon-like behavior, this is more often associated with NPD. Authenticity, vulnerability, and a genuine connection are key in forming meaningful and lasting relationships.

This article aims to clarify the often misunderstood nature of BPD and shed light on the complexity of these individuals' behaviors and experiences.